When is it that we fail to handle a situation and react? It looks like when our mind is in anger and ego, or in longings and desires.
Especially during conflicts, our mind has a tendency to hit back. And every time when we fail to respond, we increase the amount of work that we need to do in order to get free.
As we know, when situations outside and inside are hot, only more ugly things happen. So, this is the time to hold on and accept the present situation, whether a set back or an adjustment and let time pass by.
So, we should have a short term goal and a long term goal-
The short term goal is to move on from a conflict.
The long term goal is to keep moving on from such events that will keep on coming wherever we are.. as these events are not at all our final destination..