Sometimes when on the streets, we happen to cross by a beautiful girl, a wave of attraction and lust arises in us and we feel like looking at that girl more. There is an urge to seek pleasure and the eyes want to see more. And we try to peep at the girl in bits and pieces at every possible instant till she is in sight. Of course you do not stare at her frankly and openly by turning your neck too much as it would be considered uncivilized and you are supposed to be mannerly and civilized! So you crave to look at her in whatever intervals you can.. and finally when she is out of sight, there is a mild feeling of unfulfilled cravings and disturbance and may be a bit of guilt if you had got to stare too much of her and had considered her an object for a few moments.. the mind is certainly not at peace!
But have you ever noticed that this experience by itself is quite unpleasant, unsettling and unwanted from within? It makes our mind crave for a pleasure and that craving stays unfulfilled at that moment. Is it enjoyable? However, even if a craving does get fulfilled anytime, that peace of fulfillment normally vanishes quite soon and we left with experiencing only more cravings. This is a never ending story of our mind getting caught up in vasanas and we continuing to destroy our present moments, until a saturation point is reached and we finally want to be out of it. May be chant om namah shivay and get free.
So then, next time if you happen to spot a nice looking girl around you and you experience cravings, how do you deal with it? Just recollect that it is actually an unpleasant, unwanted experience that’s come to you only to destroy your inner peace. And the desire to look at that person will only increase the unpleasantness.. and she’s not the only one.. the world is super-filled with such objects of cravings, but you need not continue to look at anybody and get more trapped.. its better be with the self and be peaceful. And despite knowing this, if your passive actions are not willing to listen to your past experiences and knowledge, then just leave it and chill!